You were excited to go out on a first date with that new guy you met at the gym. You didn’t know much about him, but he had a good body and was cute so you thought it would be fun. Unfortunately, you didn’t realize he was completely psychotic, loud, and rude. Midway through the date you can’t stomach it any longer, but how do you leave? Of course, you could have planned the “call” where one of your friends calls one way through with an “emergency” if you so need it. This is a really good way to get out of a date early, but it doesn’t convey the message that you are totally disinterested in seeing the guy again. The best way to end a date early is to be open, honest, and direct. Sure, it could be painful and a little embarrassing for the guy, but if it’s so bad you are considering leaving it’s worth the collateral damage.
So, how do you tell him you won’t be waiting for the main course? Simply stand up and say to him, “Thank you for the invitation, but we don’t mesh well.” Then, begin walking to the door. If you drove, you are set because you can get in your car and leave. If you rode with him then you will need to call a car, a cab, or some other guy you might have a crush on to come and rescue you!
Remember, it’s possible the guy will not respond well and if he is obnoxious he could make a scene. If he has been drinking this is even more likely. Simply do your best to be kind and get away fast.
Of course, if you don’t have the nerve to tell him you don’t want to continue the date you can always excuse yourself to go to the bathroom, make a call for a getaway car, and then just walk out without saying a thing. This is rude and inconsiderate and could really hurt the guy’s feelings. You might be thinking it doesn’t matter if he is rude, but you probably don’t want to be in the same category he is. There are certainly some situations where this might be the better option, but if he knows where you live you might want to be a little more considerate!
